Ask M: Dealing with a bully

Dear M,

This girl constantly calls me swear words and taunts me whenever I’m around her. She does whatever she can to make my friends and me feel bad. I never do anything bad to her, and I have no idea why she hates my guts. And I’ve told my parents, but they say, “Don’t let it bother you.” I try to tell them that it’s hard to not let it get to me. Then they say to go tell a teacher, and that never helps. I try to stand up for myself and others, but I don’t know how to at this point. What am I supposed to do when it gets so bad that I don’t want to go to school anymore?

-Bully Victim


Dear Bully Victim,

I think that your parents are right, and this sounds like a cliché), but the more you show the bully that you’re hurting, the more it’s going to make her want to continue. You can feel sad about it, but sometimes “you gotta fake it ‘til you make it.”

There was one case where this young girl was getting bullied, and this is how she handled it: The bully said, “You’re so ugly!” She responded, genuinely, “Oh, you’re not ugly at all!” The kid turned the statement back to the bully with a more positive outcome. I say, “Kill ‘em with kindness,” even when you’re dealing with a bully. I think you should also try to stay away from her when possible, and I think you should still let an adult know what and who you’re dealing with.

Best of luck,



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