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Ask M: Dealing with a bully

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Artwork by Maddy Mortinson

Artwork by Maddy Mortinson

Dear M,

This girl constantly calls me swear words and taunts me whenever I’m around her. She does whatever she can to make my friends and me feel bad. I never do anything bad to her, and I have no idea why she hates my guts. And I’ve told my parents, but they say, “Don’t let it bother you.” I try to tell them that it’s hard to not let it get to me. Then they say to go tell a teacher, and that never helps. I try to stand up for myself and others, but I don’t know how to at this point. What am I supposed to do when it gets so bad that I don’t want to go to school anymore?

-Bully Victim

 

Dear Bully Victim,

I think that your parents are right, and this sounds like a cliché), but the more you show the bully that you’re hurting, the more it’s going to make her want to continue. You can feel sad about it, but sometimes “you gotta fake it ‘til you make it.”

There was one case where this young girl was getting bullied, and this is how she handled it: The bully said, “You’re so ugly!” She responded, genuinely, “Oh, you’re not ugly at all!” The kid turned the statement back to the bully with a more positive outcome. I say, “Kill ‘em with kindness,” even when you’re dealing with a bully. I think you should also try to stay away from her when possible, and I think you should still let an adult know what and who you’re dealing with.

Best of luck,

-M

 

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3 Responses to “Ask M: Dealing with a bully”

  1. Ruby on November 9th, 2017 12:33 pm

    That’s good advice, but some people are really emotional and can’t control if they cry or not. What are they supposed to do? Also, what do you do when the bully pops up one day and says we’re friends right to them? Cause I’m guessing that would be really awkward because the person doesnt want to be mean but knows the bully isnt their friend.

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  2. AskM on November 16th, 2017 12:22 pm

    I understand completely, I think the best option would be to play it out step-by-step, I know it’s difficult and you have to hang in there, but be as kind as possible, it will throw her off and it might influence her to become a better person too. You’ll feel better about the situation if you just take a step back and study the situation and figure out what went wrong. It gets easier.

    Sincerely, AskM

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  3. Liban kiyton on November 23rd, 2017 10:32 am

    Never try to be mean to a bully there trying to make you a bully

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